Listen to Him: Detailing the word “Stealthing”

In our second article for this digital series we are diving deep into the term “stealthing” (this is not exclusive to the gay community). However because of it being such a large problem — we are addressing it as a generalized topic.

In understandable terms, “Stealthing” is when two people engage in sex although obviously the “individual” wearing the “condom” removes it mid-way without the knowledge of the other person. This often occurs in cases of women suddenly and unknowingly becoming pregnant, however, has recently become (again) prevalent in the gay community. This is where the problem sits. Stealthing has for the most part gone un-talked about in the community for a very long time. It originally picked up in the late 2000s and from there the rest was history. It is more of an issue typically in situations whereas people use terms like “BB Only” “Party and Play” and more often than not “I’m Poz But Neg Only”.

I first heard about stealthing after my first raunch party in New York. It was a thing that people were doing in Brooklyn to fairly young boys at this particular party. They were unbothered at the idea that they were unaware of their status; STD status, and honestly just didn’t care. All they cared about was ensuring that they finished “the deed” inside of unknowing young dudes (had to have been 18-22).